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Speeds · Posted: Fri Sep 21, 2007 9:15 am Post subject: What happens when you are ill?

I was extremely ill on Wed night and all day yesterday - V&D. I was up half the night and to be honest my body felt that it did not want ot live another minute.

Anyway - life goes on and I had to get Dom up for work and Thomas up and to school. I came back from school and slept fro 9 til 3 when I dragged mny body out of bed and off to collect him.

How do you all cope? I am lucky that Thomas was going to school otherwise I would have been in trouble.

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pixie · Site Admin Joined: 16 Jun 2007 Posts: 1793

I hope you're feeling a bit more like it now Speeds. I hate being ill and it makes it so much harder to cope with day to day life.

I know there's 2 of us but more often we get ill together so it's tough trying to keep it together and carry on.

I don't know if you have family or friends that can help at all, we don't so it's just a "get on with it" attitude that we have to have.

I think it's much the same for most carers, there's nothing on offer in times of short term illness unless you have close family or friends willing to help out.

I hope you feel back up to "speeds" very soon.

Alice Cooper · Posted: Fri Sep 21, 2007 11:03 am Post subject:

Its hard isn't it? There are two of us, but odds are he'll be at work if i'm ill. Luckily i'm not ill that often. I just have the arthritis, so i take me painkillers and hobble round like the old hag i am!
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barbsy · Super Member Joined: 19 Jun 2007 Posts: 570

its taken me ages to work out what v and d means, i got there in the end. on thats horrible when your so rough. quite frankly if im ill i am on my own so i have to keep the little un home aswell, thankfully it only ever happened the once. its hard isnt it. i dont have anyone i can ask.

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Speeds · Posted: Fri Sep 21, 2007 3:34 pm Post subject:

Yes it is hard and also as I was ill during hte night it is not easy to get an agency carer in for Dominic as - I am sure you are all very aware - that it is virtually impossible to get them in before 6 which is the time required as Dom my hubby works

Unfortunately, if you are disabled but working and require a carer it is seen as a contradiction in terms (I know that you can work things out as we have done int he past but I am thinking in an emergency).

My mum is now closer to us but she does not drive - so quandry again.

I have loads of friends and one of my mates on another forum wrote this - I have cross posted her response

"Oh Speeds, I thought you were quiet! You should have sent me an SOS message, although I haven't a clue where Thomas' school is! Hope you're ok now and Dom looked after you when he got home from work! I think your disabled husband does far more than my able-bodied husband!" BTW we were talking about Why Men Meddle on another topic

I am lucky really but it did get me thinking.

Sorry - I thought it was more polite to put V&D rather than speeling it out

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Rabid · Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 12:52 pm Post subject:

Sorry to hear about the V&D, hope you feel better soon.
Its not easy when illness strikes

Take care.

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