Prayers and Positive Thoughts Needed

pixie · Prayers and Positive Thoughts Needed

I am sorry to say that rabid's father is in hospital and doesn't seem to be improving just yet.

Anyone that feels able to please say a prayer and send positive thoughts for his recovery for him and his family.

Thank you all. xx

Speeds

Aww Pixie and Rabid - what sad news.

A prayer is winging its way to you both and your families and to Dad.

Get Well Soon - relax and let the treatment help.

pixie

Thanks Speeds, we really didn't think he'd still be in there but there is no improvement so he will stay in for a while longer yet.
He's having blood transfusions now to try and give him a boost.

We have everything crossed here and saying little prayers for him throughout each day hoping for good news.

charles47

Best wishes to Rabid and here's hoping her father improves quickly.

pam

My thoughts are with you all. Pam xx

Speeds

How are things today Pixe and Rabid - any news?

Still sending our healing thoughts from here

pixie

Not sure how he is today but last night he still wasn't eating or drinking, losing weight, having to wear pads because of the antibiotics etc. He had a blood transfusion last night and is having another today.

Rabid's sister will phone us later and let us know how he is today.

I hope there will be some improvement soon.

I'll let you all know when I know anything.

Thanks to you all for your prayers. xx

pixie

There seems to be a little improvement today.

He has drunk a little liquid and has some colour in his cheeks.

Little steps so far but hopefully on the road to recovery.

Speeds

That is positive news Pixie.

Still thinking of you all.

pam

Good news Pixie. Pam

pixie

No real improvement since the last update I'm afraid.

He has many problems that need sorting and they all need sorting out individually so they can move onto the next one.

I think it will be a long road but he will get there in the end fingers crossed.

Speeds

Pixie

Recovery is a journey that does start with small steps.

I hope that everything gets sorted.

Big hugs

pam

I am sure he is in good hands Pixie my late mother in-law also had a long journey to recovery once - but she got there eventually. Pam

pixie

Thanks guys that helps a great deal and makes me feel that there is some hope for his recovery afterall.

He is 79 so not a spring chicken so there are bound to be some problems when you get to that age.

I'll update you when I know more. xx

pam

Pixie - my late mother in-law was 91 - so don't despair because of his age xx Pam

pixie

Thanks Pam, that is reassuring and good to know that they do still help when you get older.

I have it in my head that once you get older they don't bother quite as much. I suppose that's all the bad press about the NHS so I will have to think more positively and send all the good thoughts to him. xx

pixie

The latest news is that he's coming home next week with a care package.

He has decided to refuse all further tests and any treatment that may be appropriate following the tests.

He has an advanced directive so doesn't want any further intervention.

Hubby is not sure yet how he should feel and neither does his brother.

It is so sad but it is his decision so none of us can do anything to change his mind. Once he's decided he won't change it.

Sorry to bring this bad news here but I know you have all been saying prayers and sending positive feelings for him and us so I wanted you all to know.

Thank you again for all your good wishes and positive posts. xx

pam

Pixie - it's sad news but sometimes we need to take charge of our own lives and this is what your father in law has done.It's very hard for all of you - be brave and all you can do is help him along the pathway he has chosen. Pam xx

Speeds

I hope that all went well with Rabid's dad coming home.

All that any of us can do is be there to support and help, not to judge but to care. Hard as it may seem to have to respect another person's wishes when we think there could be more done.

Thinking of you all

pixie

Hubby's Dad came home yesterday.

No care package of course, but that's to be expected as they don't do things that quickly round here. I'm not sure how hubby's Mum is going to cope with all his needs but she only lives a short sitance away so we can help out if she needs us.

Thanks for all the prayers and positive thoughts from you all, it has made a big difference. xx

charles47

Hi Pixie.

The law says no hospital discharge without a care package in place from day one. (Community Care [Delayed Discharges] Act 2003). Social Services are in breach - time for a complaint?

pixie

Thanks for that Charles but I think my father in law was rather too proud/stubborn and when asked he refused any help apparently. I didn't know that when I wrote my post.

I just feel for his wife but maybe she will have some influence over him to get some help in.

That info is very useful Charles and I'm sure if they just hadn't bothered we could have complained.

pam

Pixie I remember what a tottering time we had when hubby's mum had dementia and getting her to allow help was a nightmare. We managed to arrange some day care for her and dusters in hand i would lurk to see if mum (bless her) would get in the car/bus and go. If she went it meant I had the day to change her bed and clean the house before she got back!
I tell you - it was not easy.
Good luck with the following months and I hope your father inlaw recovers soon. Pam